“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” – Steve Maraboli
Love is some potent stuff. It gets us high, knocks us low, and spins us ‘round and ‘round. It heals, it hurts, and delivers unparalleled joy.
When something sprouts up in relationship that’s different than we’d envisioned, it’s easy to fall into fear. Despite our best reminders that change signifies life, movement and growth, we punish ourselves, thinking we’ve done something wrong, and worry that all is lost. The analytic mind loops like a rollercoaster, as we angle to salvage the remaining vestiges of that vision. Spinning with the illusion that if we just try a little harder, we will be able to fix the issue or control the outcome.
Amid the complexities love brings, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that relationships are about one person- and one person only. YOU. Lovers are our greatest teachers and our most revealing mirrors; it’s through these intricate relationships that we gain greater insight into ourselves.
Regardless of what the physical plane is showing you, you must trust that your life is working out for your best interest. We don’t create anything we can’t handle. The best thing you can do is let go of trying to control. I know- easier said than done. But by letting go, you release yourself from your limited vision of whatever it is you thought you wanted, thus creating space for what you actually need in order to evolve into a more loving, compassionate, and ultimately powerful person.
Loving connection is the essence of who we are as sexual beings, and necessary to our survival as a species. And, while there are many lovely and colorful characters that navigate beside us in this life, the journey into greater consciousness is ultimately something we do alone. I used to think love was something I found in another person, but eventually discovered what I was looking for in another was in me all the time. And now I know my love stays with me wherever I go, and I can’t think of a better companion.
*Featured image by the amazingly talented, Janet Hoots.