Last week I wrote a post about recognizing when things shift out of alignment and the power of letting go. I even went so far as to say that letting go is a skill that gets easier the more you do it.
So, you can imagine my amusement when the physical plane served me up a curve ball that challenged my belief...in 4 inch heels no less.
It all went down when I went to see my girl, Terra Naomi perform at The Hotel Cafe. The Hotel Café is a tiny music venue filled with serious music people sitting at little round tables sipping bourbon. . . Read More >>
Choosing to be on a conscious path of growth means two things for certain. First, life will always be an exciting adventure. Second, things are going to change on a more accelerated level. If things are bound to change, the question becomes, how do we decide when to hold on, and when to let go?
While the term “letting go” sounds easy, like a ship gliding gently away from the dock, the reality, often times, is more like jumping out of an airplane at 30,000 ft unsure if the chute is packed properly.
Letting go of anything—friends, lovers, jobs, emotions, illusions, beliefs—. . . Read More >>
/ WoW | Terra Naomi
The first time I heard Terra Naomi’s stunning soprano voice, I felt like I’d been transported back to a time in history where the biggest stars of the show were the songs themselves. The audience’s noisy chatter quieted at once as she took the stage. It was immediately obvious that she was a masterful singer, and her songs – raw, intimate, and intense - had that magical way of revealing her personal journey, while also speaking to a much larger universal understanding of what it means to be human.
As a music lover and a beginner singer and songwriter myself, I was. . . Read More >>
Giving is an immense spiritual power. How giving, or non-giving we are, is the foundation for the levels of abundance we manifest in our lives.
If you asked me if I considered myself to be a giving person when I began my spirit nature journey seven years ago, I would’ve said, “Well, yeeeeah!” I gave compliments, presents and on occasion, my time to those in need.
But I soon found out that I didn’t really understand the fundamentals of giving at all. Giving is a far more expansive notion than the way I understood it.
The universe isn’t a static backdrop; it’s a. . . Read More >>
It’s that time of year again… holiday parties, carolers, unnerving photos of kids crying on the knees of Mall Santa everywhere… oh, and of course, family.
For some, spending time with family is a rejuvenating oasis from the hot sandy deserts of life. For others, it’s like strolling through the streets of Kabul. As much as I know we all want the oasis, my family tends to lean slightly more towards Kabul. In recent years, however, I’ve realized that the biggest factor in determining my holiday family experience is… myself.
Yep, it turns out a little bit of consciousness goes a long way. . . Read More >>
If you’ve been following along for a while you know that up until a few years ago, I truly did not believe myself to have one creative bone in my body. Zero. Zip. Zilch. Nada…
I’d held the vague assumption that creativity was genetic and that gene had unceremoniously passed me by. So I embraced my sporty, social self, got a corporate job and presumed happiness would find me. I wanted to feel alive, inspired and satisfied, and had seen enough of the world to know I had NO reason to complain, yet I still wrestled with deep lacking and restless void. . . Read More >>
Inspiration is Energy
Energy is Spirit
Spirit is Life
Life is Breath
Breath is Being
Being is Being the Beginner
Being the Beginner is Permission
Permission is Trust
Trust is Knowing
Knowing is Belief
Belief is Peace
Peace is Presence
Presence is Connection to Spirit
Connection to Spirit is Inspiration
*Featured image by Mark Shaw. . . Read More >>
Sometimes we are cracked open without warning. Other times an unnerving anticipation builds like the click, click, click of the rollercoaster climbing up the tracks before an inevitable fall. Either way, this isn’t the romanticized, sweet pain of the movies.
This is the siren sounding, bathroom floor sobbing kind of pain that kicks us in the gut.
I’ve found that in instances like these, the only way out is in. Inside myself- underneath of the layers of blame and excuses I’ve piled on top of the truth. And if I can press pause on the “poor me” chatter playing on repeat in my mind. . . Read More >>
Do you wake up inspired and enthused to create? Or do you find yourself fighting through fears, frustrations and exhaustive apathy?
After 31 years dodging a pervasive apathy for creative expression by filling my calendar to the brim with work, parties and vacations, I discovered a creative passion inside me I never knew existed, and frankly- it saved my life. I've yet to find anything as satisfying as being inspired; it's what gives my life meaning for me. It's a feeling that wants to shout, "This is who I am and why I'm here! I have a reason to be alive!"
As. . . Read More >>
Happiness is an interesting paradox. You can’t buy it, but it isn’t free.
So what’s the deal?
I've found that happiness hinges on a work-trade agreement. If we do the work, we receive the #1 generator to power a happy, fulfilling life. It’s like pulling the ecstasy card in a tarot reading (as I recently found out)- you get it all!
For all that are willing to do it, the reward for this work-trade agreement is Self-Love. The concept of self-love gets tossed around casually, but when we cultivate genuine self-love astounding things begin to happen!
1. We gain the courage to live free. . . Read More >>
Be | Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." - Helen Keller
Unless you are cocooned snuggly inside your comfort zone and take no chances or risks whatsoever, life is going to have turbulence. In fact the more we have the courage to face the darkness inside ourselves, and strip away the layers of illusion we insulate inside to feel safe, the more our external lives are going to shift to mirror our internal growth. Change can be really. . . Read More >>
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Modern life is indeed a very fast paced and complex existence. Between creating careers that support the lifestyles we women desire and the fulfillment we crave, staying fit, and balancing family, all the while cultivating meaningful present-time friendships, manifesting a loving partnership, and getting a handle on what it means to be a woman on the planet - it’s easy to lose sight of the very Ordinary Magic that’s abundant on our beautiful planet and living within us.
A week ago, I led an intimate group of openhearted women to Cabo San Lucas for. . . Read More >>
When my journey of self-discovery began, I sort of assumed that one day I would arrive at a state of consciousness, and then I would be a peaceful, happy person. This couldn’t have been further from the truth.
What I’ve discovered from nearly 7 years of very focused spiritual work is that consciousness is not a destination; it’s the result of living each day with consistent intention. Consistent intention, simply put, allows us to know the best version of ourselves. It allows us to heal and cultivate inner kindness that translates at outer kindness, and when the waters get choppy, we. . . Read More >>
Uh, no. Leopards don't change their spots but people can and do change. What your story is today does not need to be your story tomorrow. From my own spiritual evolution and assisting others with their personal transformations, I’ve had the opportunity to observe what differentiates people who successfully transform their lives from those who stay stuck.
The following three steps are essential for dynamic growth and personal change.
1. THE SINCERE DESIRE
Every human has four endowments- self-awareness, conscience, independent free will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change. –Stephen R. Covey
You must get honest. . . Read More >>
Last night in my dream I met a man with an accent who shared with me his life’s greatest revelation. He said,
“What often appears to be the lightest, brightest, most brilliant thing is actually dark on the inside.” Since we were on the astral plane his words instantly formed into images before my eyes.
When he said “lightest,” a grandiose golden castle appeared in front of me; as he said “brightest,” a bigger, more luminous castle emerged next to it; his word “brilliant” induced an even larger, more dazzling castle just beside the other two with weeping willow like white-golden light. . . Read More >>
If you’re above the age of… say of six, then chances are you are well versed in life’s ability to throw a swift curve ball at the worst possible moment. Perhaps you’ve discovered what I have: at times those curve balls oddly resemble cruise missiles. When something blows up in your life and compromises your work, your love, and your beautiful plans, it’s common to want to immediately go into disaster control. And while what I'm about to share may feel counter-intuitive, in many cases, it's the best thing you can do.
Doing nothing allows you time to process whatever emotions are coming. . . Read More >>
Create | Space for Inspiration
To point out busy is the new normal is nothing new. Everyone from my retired 70 year old dad to my 2 year old nephew seems to have schedules packed (golf and play albeit for the aforementioned) to the gills. And while being busy does offer a certain level of satisfaction, this contiguous planning and execution of life, ices us out of the very thing that delivers genuine, heart thumping, meaning fulfillment: inspiration.
I always wanted to be a Type A, early rising, list carrying, immaculate car kind of person, but the only lists I ever wrote ended up crumbled in the bottom. . . Read More >>
My perspective was forever changed the day I came home to discover an eight week old puppy yelping excitedly in the backyard.
“Surprise,” Jamison said in his slight southern drawl.
I wasn’t exactly what one would call a dog person… but there was something about the way this pup wiggled his rubbery black nose and looked up at me with a pair of eyes so sweet I’m convinced they could stop wars, that made me want to be his mama.
Disco (he came to me in my dream and asked that we call him Disco, but that’s another story) and I quickly. . . Read More >>
"If you had just a minute to breathe and they granted you one final wish
Would you ask for something like another chance?" -Traffic
Life is a journey with many twists and turns, switchbacks and cliffs. And even though we can intellectualize that there will be ups and downs, why is the idea of falling or failing (as some people see it) so terrifying?
Because of competition we internalize being “right,” doing things “right” as the basis of our self worth, and the very reason why anyone else would want to be with us. But to be perfectly right and do everything perfectly. . . Read More >>
When you are deeply intertwined in a romantic relationship the lines between the couple you once were and the couple you dreamt of being, blur into the present, making it difficult to see the realities of your health as a couple.
I know this because I spent years in a relationship that had run it’s course, reminiscing about the loved-up beginning and fooling myself with visions of grandeur for our future, when the only thing I was really doing was wasting my time not being happy.
You may rationalize that you'll get back to where you were; after all, you've invested so. . . Read More >>
Explore | Your deepest self
"A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself."- Jim Morrison.
There are few things as satisfying as spending an afternoon with a cherished friend. Whether it’s spent discussing great ideas, reveling in silly shenanigans, or reminiscing about good times, friendship is undoubtedly one of the sweetest elements of life.
While initially we're drawn to people for our likeness - like attracts like - as time goes on, (if we're growing), chances are we aren't going to grow in the same directions as our friends, and when you think about it, why would we? We each have our own. . . Read More >>
Explore | What More Means
Food, work, the internet, caffeine, booze, exercise, shopping, lovers… most of us grapple with addiction in some way. Many commonly ascribe genetics to addiction, but my experience has shown me it’s actually a complex, spiritual condition stemming from unresolved emotional pain. Regardless if it’s pain that originated in childhood, or another lifetime, unresolved pain shows up on the physical plane as a voracious appetite for more. To constantly need something outside of ourselves to be OK is a very legitimate state of dis-ease.
Addiction comes in many shades, and while I (maybe) didn’t look like a person who was suffering from. . . Read More >>
Explore | Beyond What You Think You Know
Ever since I was a little girl, the value of intelligence and a good education was instilled in me. My paternal grandfather immigrated from Portugal with nothing more than an 8th grade education and through intelligence and a strong work ethic created enough prosperity to pay for all of his grandchildren’s formal education. My grandmother on my mother’s side earned a Master's degree in English Literature from Northwestern in the 1920s, before embarking on a 50-year teaching career.
I love hearing stories about people empowering themselves for a better life. And while intelligence and education are undoubtedly valuable assets for a. . . Read More >>
Create | A Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams
For most of my life, I concentrated on what I wanted to achieve, conquer, or attain. To my surprise, and subsequent chagrin, I wasn’t as happy or satisfied as I imagined I’d be when I was successful in achieving, conquering and attaining where I’d set my focus.
As I sought information about the world and myself (clearly what I thought I knew wasn’t true) I recognized we’re driven to achieve, conquer and attain because we assume it will make us feel OK in some way. While all of the diverse displays of human behavior stem from our desires to be accepted, important, worthwhile,. . . Read More >>
Anything in life worth having requires a bit of energy, and happiness is no different. The good news, however, is you have the superpowers necessary to supercharge your life with greater freedom, appreciation, and love right now!
1. Forgive Someone.
"Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom." – Hannah Arendt
Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness is not for the other person- it’s for you. Resentment wreaks havoc on your life like an out of control drunk unwilling to leave the party. Forgiveness loosens the grip that person/incident/event has on you, allowing you to move forward. Forgive someone right now and be amazed. . . Read More >>
It’s often said, change is hard and people don’t change. I’ve discovered people do change when they are willing, and change isn’t hard when you have the information on how to do it. The ways in which our lives play out are simply manifestations of what’s going on the inside. Change the inside and watch your life unfold in an entirely new direction.
1. Set an intention.
Whether it’s a complete life overhaul, or you want to break through creatively (which actually is a complete life overhaul) declaring you are ready for a change is signaling to your inner wisdom that you’re ready. . . Read More >>
By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning. -Lao Tzu
So often we think we need more to be happy, when in actuality we just need to let go of limiting beliefs and erroneous understandings. The following are 7 things you can let go of right now that are part of my continual practice I know yield significant results!
1. Let go of living your life for your parents.
From a very young age we seek approval and acceptance from our. . . Read More >>
“Who knows how to make love stay?” Tom Robbins famously asks in Still Life With Woodpecker.
At the beginning of a relationship, when we’re falling in love, there is a copious amount of magic that’s present. It pervades every crevice of our existence, making life’s tedious tasks and obligations come alive in a vibrant rush of passion.
Then, one day, without any warning it’s gone. Just as effortlessly as it appeared, it flitters off in the night sky with no mention of where it’s heading or if it has any plans to return. We retrace steps wondering, is there is anything we could’ve done. . . Read More >>
Growth is a curious thing. Often times it hurts like hell and imposes great uncertainty upon us, and it isn’t until we’re able to assimilate some different information, that we can reflect back to the past season, year, or ten years and seen we’ve grown. Many times it’s through these trials and tribulations that we start to see ourselves as much more capable than we’d previously understood ourselves to be. While growth is often times a consequence of pain, I've discovered pain does not always need to accompany growth.
While I certainly have plenty of day-to-day material that allows me the opportunity to. . . Read More >>
"Once in awhile you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right..." -The Grateful Dead
These words are often times used interchangeably, but apparently confidence and belief are about as similar as Juicy Couture and Couture. I know this because I was once quite comfortable in my confidence. I had no trouble speaking up, dancing freely, and traveling solo. I jumped out of airplanes, surfed big waves and skied double black diamonds without so much as a second thought. I had conviction to make the grade, land the deal, and get the guy.
Then, as my former. . . Read More >>
Be | Free to Discover your Authentic Self
While I wasn’t exactly one of those girls who sat alone on the bleachers, scribbling in her notebook the astute observations of an outside observer, I certainly had an affinity for words.
In the third grade, I composed my first work of fiction about the oldest woman in the world. A piece that I don’t remember much about except for one sentence,
“She sobbed and sobbed and when she was through she found herself sitting in a sea of wrinkly tears.”
A sentence that garnered praise from Mrs. Perry, the opportunity for me to read my story aloud in front of the class,. . . Read More >>
Explore | Yourself Though Your Relationship
"The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself." - Steve Maraboli
Love is some potent stuff. It gets us high, knocks us low, and spins us ‘round and ‘round. It heals, it hurts, and delivers unparalleled joy.
When something sprouts up in relationship that’s different than we’d envisioned, it’s easy to fall into fear. Despite our best reminders that change signifies life, movement and growth, we punish ourselves, thinking we’ve done something wrong, and worry that all is lost. The analytic mind loops like a rollercoaster, as we angle to salvage the remaining vestiges of that vision. Spinning. . . Read More >>
Due to a variety of planetary constructs - all rooted in origins of our patriarchal culture - we, women, are programmed from the day we are born to prioritize relationship as the most important aspect of our lives. Ask an honest man where loving relationship (not sex) ranks on his list of life imperatives, and you’ll probably find it mid-way down the list sandwiched conveniently between court-side seats at the Lakers game and a bachelor party in Vegas.
As a child, I’d overhear hear my mother describe me as precocious, but I know I wasn’t the only 5 year old at Happy Valley Elementary who. . . Read More >>
As a youngster I never felt young. I remember teenagers and adults speaking freely in my presence under the pretext that my seven-year-old psyche was much too naïve to understand such grownup subjects. I let them believe that, but I didn’t miss a thing. I quickly learned straight A’s said I was smart, being athletic meant I was popular, and hanging with the boys made me cool. As I got older, I equated partying with fun, money with success, and a sparkler on an all-important finger with security.
Despite my quick-witted, adventurous, yoga sculpted, high-kickin’ and high-falutin’ life, I repeatedly found myself in a. . . Read More >>
Chances are, at some point you’ve either found yourself on the defense in a conversation, or witnessed someone else reacting in a defensive way. Either side you’re on is anything but a good time.
I realize defenses have a place- the atmosphere, deodorant, eyelashes...
Defensiveness in a conversation, however, is incredibly destructive. Defensiveness at its baseline level results from one feeling unsafe in a conversation, and if someone feels unsafe, he/she won’t be capable of being present in that conversation.
While this is an important understanding, I’m interested in the why behind the why, and how the not so obvious can help assist. . . Read More >>
“The heart of human excellence often begins to beat when you discover a pursuit that absorbs you, frees you, challenges you, or gives you a sense of meaning, joy or passion.”- Terry Orlick
We’ve all heard the saying, do what you love and the money will follow. However, amid the chaos of becoming self-sufficient, doing what we think is expected of us, and obtaining the "American Dream", all the while staying fit, finding love, and trying to have a little fun, it's easy to lose sight of what we're really passionate about - that is if we ever knew what it was in. . . Read More >>
"two people were married-
the act was outrageous,
the bride was contagious,
she burned like a bride..."
- paul simon
Three years ago Friday - on the last day of a three week adventure through Peru that took us eighteen hours down the Amazon River by boat, to Lima’s bustling metropolis, into Cuzco's rich history, atop the majestic peaks of Machu Picchu, and down into the fertile folds of the Scared Valley – we spontaneously decided to get married.
In a private ceremony, just for us, (apart from a little live music of course) in the same dress I wore on our first date and a flower. . . Read More >>